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Over 40 and Single - Stop Wasting Time Dating & Live Life on Your Terms

6/26/2016 Anant Goel

I know: you’ve thought long and hard about trying to find a young woman to bed (or have a relationship with) on the Internet. This may even have been sold to you as the new, modern way of dating and of connecting with singles. But the single biggest issue with modern Internet dating is that it isn’t really anything new, and doesn’t actually offer you any truly different alternatives.

Why men date?

It doesn’t matter if we’re talking about a traditional relationship site, a hookup app, or some other form of meeting people online for anything from friendships to casual sex to long-term dating and even serious relationships. Let’s stop and define why anyone bothers to date on the Internet in the first place: It is to secure a woman, a female companion, for a short-term or a long-term relationship, right? Sure, some women will tell you they are on an Internet dating site looking to meet new friends for casual times out, but that’s not really true. People go on an Internet dating site to “find someone,” and that’s the really the whole reason for it. The problem with the traditional, old-fashioned way of dating people, though, is that it wastes both time and money overall and while not really increasing the chances that you’ll secure a companion of the opposite sex.

Its waste of time and money…

It all starts with all the time and money you have to waste to try and meet someone when you engage in online dating. Before the Internet, you had to go to bars and clubs to meet women. This took a lot of time and you spent an awful lot of your time just waiting to meet someone who might potentially be interesting to talk to. So it was a waiting game, in that you could only just hang around hoping that someone would happen along. But once you did spot someone, you then had to try to get their attention, and that isn’t easy to do in a crowded bar or club setting. Once you found yourself competing for a woman’s attention in some nightclub or bar, you had to fight it out with other guys trying to get her attention, doing whatever you could to get noticed. You could try buying drinks for women, but of course that costs a great deal of money, and when you add that to the cover charges you pay, it amounts to quite a bit of cash. And let’s not forget all the hours you are spending in those clubs and bars, during which you can’t do anything at all productive or meaningful. All that money you’re spending trying to break the ice with some girl amounts to resources wasted. And does any of this really sound like any fun at all? Shouldn’t dating and going out actually be fun? Why would you ever put yourself through that voluntarily?

Internet dating…

People gravitated to Internet dating because the old-fashioned way of dating was such a huge hassle. But really, does the red tape you have to go through to get a girl to date you seem any different than what you go through on an Internet dating website? If you do get a woman’s phone number when you’re out at a club, you have to go back and forth with her in text messages or phone calls, trying to convince her to go out on a real one on one date with her. This could go on for quite some time of missed connections, misinterpreted or cryptic statements, and her changing her mind or canceling on you at the last minute.

So you have a date…

When you do finally go out on a date with her, it’s not like you’re going to have fun, either. Now your job is to impress her and do everything possible to entertain her and get her to let you go out with her again. If you say anything that offends her, your chances will be done and you’ll have lost all that time and effort and money you’ve laid out up to this point. If you hold an opinion she doesn’t like, she could walk away, or just never go out on another date with you. And the whole time she does go out on dates with you, she could be deciding there is some quality about you that she just can’t “get over.” Maybe you’re too short. Maybe you’re too fat. Maybe she just doesn’t think you’re her type, or she’s just not attracted to you. Either way, when you do the traditional dating thing, you’re going to end up abandoned and left high and dry at some point. Women do that sort of thing all the time to guys who are trying to date them, entirely casually.

So you have a date from the Internet…

The equivalent stage of Internet dating is just as bad. Sure, you have more women to choose from overall, but all that means in an environment where there are more men than women to begin with is that you’re now competing with an even larger pool of other men for the attention of the few women on the site worth talking to. It’s a sad fact that not as many women use dating services online because, frankly, they don’t need it. Any moderately attractive woman can find a man who is willing to be with her at least on a casual basis, because all she has to do is lower her standards a little and say yes. Men simply aren’t that selective. A recent viral video showed a woman in a short skirt who was quite attractive walking up and propositioning random men on the street. She basically just walked up to them and said, “Hey, would you be willing to have sex with me?” A very high number of the men just said yes without bothering to ask too many questions. That’s either very obvious or a very sad commentary on the state of male-female relationships. It may point to the fact that men are just desperate for female contact of any kind, and to the fact that women are far too withholding of it. But of course, it is the women who withhold affection, isn’t it? Men don’t usually do that because they rarely turn down opportunities.

What kind of women you find on the Internet…

Any reasonably appealing woman can find a man in her real life that is willing to go out with her. Only the real losers have to go to Internet dating, and that means any woman you meet on an Internet dating site is either going to be unattractive, a slut, someone who has mental problems, or some combination of all of the above. You just never know what you’re getting. It’s like dialing a phone number at random and trying to chat up whoever answers. And of course there is always the possibility, on Internet dating sites, of being fooled by someone who isn’t the age they say they are, or isn’t a girl at all, but some guy who gets off on fooling men into believing they are talking to a willing woman. There are just many ways that Internet dating can go wrong right from the outset, from “cat fishing” to some other kind of horrible deal, like when you try to hook up with someone and get mugged instead. Remember the “Craigslist killer?” There are people even now using Craigslist for casual hookups, but it’s incredibly dangerous to do so.

It can cost you a fortune dating on the Internet…

Getting back to Internet dating, you’re going to have to shell out a lot of money for the privilege of being rejected, and you’re probably not going to find someone anyway. You’ll first have to pay a lot of money in membership fees. The monthly fees can add up to a lot, depending on the site you use. Then there are the premium charges, and the add-on charges. Most sites will squeeze you for money if you want the best possible chance of getting in touch with someone. They’ll make it so you have to buy credits to check messages or contact members who aren’t also premium members, and so on.

Basically it’s a tiered class system that puts the lowest payers in the lowest class, and allows you to buy your way into a higher class. But no matter how much money you pay, you’re still at a disadvantage, because the women who are at least a little attractive are always fighting off the attentions of many more men. They are inundated with messages on any day, which means the messages you try to send to get noticed are likely to get lost in the shuffle. Because they are usually overwhelmed with messages, in many cases you won’t even hear back from them. And if you do hear back from then, then weeks of pointless small talk will probably be the result. Will all that rejection, all that wasted time, and all that effort eventually is rewarded by actually producing a date with the young lady in question? You might eventually manage to put something together. Certainly people have before. But there’s no telling how many weeks or months of annoying effort and waste time you’re going to go through to get to that point, is there?

Does Internet dating really work?

What you have to ask yourself, though, is whether Internet dating even works at all. If people really met on Internet dating sites, paired off, and lived happily ever after the way the ads say they do, wouldn’t the sites go out of business? But they don’t go out of business. More Internet dating sites seem to open and start advertising every single day. That tells us that the majority of people turning to Internet dating in an effort to find someone don’t actually find anyone. At least, they don’t find someone on a permanent basis. Now granted, there are some “dating” sites whose goal is not to produce lasting relationships, and you could be in the market for one of those. A hookup site or app just helps you find people to be romantic with on a quick, casual basis. But do you really have any idea what you are getting when you hook up with a stranger like that through one of those sites or apps? The chances you could get someone who is crazy, or who has a disease, or who even wants to rob or hurt you, is actually pretty great with something like that. Most people would conclude this is not a risk you want to take. Any rational person will probably reach the conclusion that Internet dating is not just a huge waste of time, but something that isn’t going to improve his life in any way.

So where does that leave you?

Honestly, given the difficulty of dating and finding someone, the need to have money when you do (because few women want to mess around with a guy who doesn’t have enough money to suit them), the ongoing hassles of maintaining a relationship with almost any woman, and the seriously deranged way some women approach relationships with men (controlling them, nagging them, always acting unhappy, and generally pulling the life and happiness out of them by trying to be part boss, part mother, and all critic), it would be easy to see why some men give up on the idea of having female companionship altogether. After all, what are they really gaining? But the problem is, it is a natural human impulse to seek out human companionship. It is also a natural human impulse for a man who is straight to want to be around women. It isn’t just the companionship and not being lonely; it is the sexual gratification of being with a woman physically. In fact, studies have shown that all human beings desire physical intimacy, not just through masturbation, but with another person.

Think out-side the box and live your life on your terms…

Well, human relationships aren’t always possible and they’re often very difficult. Unless you want to be a slave to someone who’s going to be mean to you, unless you want to be “whipped,” you don’t have a choice but to deal with them, though. Or do you? What if you did have an alternative to traditional relationships? What if you could choose to find a way out of and around the old relationship hassle? What if you could instead find a way to have real sexual gratification on your terms, without the hassle of the way things used to be done, the way you have always assumed they should be done when you enter into a relationship? What if you could take control of your sex life and always have companionship available… and what if you no longer had to worry about whether you could trust the person you were with? What if you knew they would never leave you? What if you could leave the house in the morning to go to work, knowing that your lovely lady would always be waiting faithfully for you when you got home? And what if she never got tired of you, never got bored, never complained, never needed you to entertain her, and was happy to give you plenty of space to be with your friends, hang out, and enjoy yourself? That sounds like the perfect relationship, doesn’t it?

Well, now you can have that relationship, because it’s not a relationship at all…

It’s a full size modern day real life Japanese or Chinese doll, the sexiest lady you’ll ever welcome to your home and into your bed. They are incredibly sexy. They’re not just great looking… they’re superb in every conceivable way. Everything about them is perfect and everything you ask of them, they’ll do. They’ll never refuse you, they’ll never say no, they’re always up for whatever you’re into, and they’re always sexy and fun.

Don’t believe me, just watch the video…

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